Solopreneur Smarts: Find Someone Who Will Dish It Out!

Solopreneur Smarts: Find Someone Who Will Dish It Out!

Anyone who has spent even minimal time on this blog knows that I believe in the balance of reality and positivity.

That’s not to say that I’m not a positive person. I betcha bunches of bucks that if you ask almost anyone I’ve ever worked with, you’ll be told that I’m actually quite nice, upbeat, perky and, GACK, positive!

I just prefer to pepper my positivity with a heaping tablespoon of reality.

The Solopreneur Gig? It Ain’t All That Glamorous!

Part of being real with myself, my clients and my peers means I’ve got to admit that there’s no easy button when it comes to branding, digital marketing or digital design.

Sure, there are tools and systems, templates and tutorials, available to make much of your day to day doings a little less fraught with frustration and freelancer foibles.

But that giant red easy button, unlike the R.O.U.S. in the fire swamp, just doesn’t exist.

And much like Westley needed to get the shit kicked out of him by that lumbering rodent, sometimes we, too, need more than a pat on the back and a gentle reminder to remain positive.

Sometimes You Need A Kick In The Ass …

Not A Consoling Pat On The Back!

The best coaches I’ve ever had were those who had no problem blowing the whistle on me if I was lazy, failed to use proper form, or simply didn’t have my head in the game.

We all need that same honesty and willingness to “tell it like it is” when it comes to our business mentors and accountability partners.

As busy solopreneurs we need more than sugar-coated, syrupy kudos and lackluster laments when things aren’t going so well.

[clickToTweet tweet=”#Solopreneurs often need a healthy dose of no-nonsense reality! #realyourealbiz” quote=”Sometimes what we need most is a healthy dose of reality, delivered in a no-nonsense fashion.”]

Sometimes we all need to be asked one, or more, of the following questions:

  • Who told you it would all be easy?
  • Is the hustle worth it?
  • Do you still love what you’re doing?
  • Have you thought about taking a break?
  • Where’s your plan?

Passion & Positivity Aren’t Enough

Here’s the savvy skinny. No matter how much you love your products or services, no matter how passionate you are about the hustle, you’re going to find some days more difficult than others. You can’t wing it with passion and a positive outlook.

The hard work and the hustle never go away. The early mornings and late nights don’t disappear either. Sure, you can plan a bit better and you can certainly learn to better manage your time. But when a big gig is on the calendar, and you’re going it solo, the work has to get done.

That means sometimes you have to skip a family dinner. Sometimes you have to get up before the crack of dawn on, GASP, a Sunday!

Sometimes The Solopreneur Gig Sucks!

And we really need to be reminded of that suckitude from time to time.

You’ll sometimes fight through lowest of lows on your journey to the highest of highs, including your first sale, your first speaking gig, your first rate increase, etc.

You want your clients and prospects to be open and honest about their needs, their expectations, right? Why wouldn’t you want the same from your peer group, your business partners, your mastermind group, your coach or mentor?

Sometimes you’ll have to take off the rose-colored glasses and view your solopreneur gig through the reality lens. It won’t be perfect. It won’t always be pink and pretty. But it will always be pretty ding-danged sweet when you remember you’re the boss!

17 replies
  1. kate
    kate says:

    Love this!! Great post. I agree 100%. You need to have a balance of positivity and reality to keep things real.

    • Mallie Hart
      Mallie Hart says:

      Thanks, Kate. It really has been bugging me lately that so many seem to equate taking a realistic view with pessimism or negativity. Reality must coincide with positivity, else we’d be living a fantasy!

    • Mallie Hart
      Mallie Hart says:

      Thanks, Alora. A little reality can be absolutely inspiring. It allows us to let go of what’s not working, after all!

  2. emily
    emily says:

    love this post- I’ve recently begun my own blog/business and it definitely can be hard to stay positive and motivated. Thanks for this lovely post 🙂

    • Mallie Hart
      Mallie Hart says:

      I so agree, Emily. We’re not robots or cartoon characters. Real life sometimes gets in the way of our goals and dreams. It’s all about how we deal with it. I don’t know about you, but honestly admitting to our failings just makes sense to me!

  3. Violeta Nedkova
    Violeta Nedkova says:

    Yes, yes, yes. I’m struggling right now with this, so I have to constantly remind myself to get back in the game and that it’s SO worth it. By the way, I like what you said about coaches kicking your butt, haha, I wish I had someone like that!

    • Mallie Hart
      Mallie Hart says:

      I’m actually working on a new endeavor which addresses the need for accountability partners and reality checks from peers. I’ll tell you more about it with a PM later today. I think it’s something we all struggle with, Violeta. That’s why we have to build a community for our brand, of peers as well as potential clients.

  4. Kellie
    Kellie says:

    Holy crap this is a great post. You do sing it like it is don’t you? The syrupy stuff drives me crazy. I’m in a FB group where we share our posts and get comments etc… I ask the group if my post was helpful, even though I felt it to be hard hitting (truthful). Someone actually commented that it was charming (syrupy). I knew they didn’t even read it.
    I’d rather have a dish of it any day than just someone going through the motions. Btw, I’m here from Badass (it’s not that group I’m referring to) It is like the best group ever of Badass’ dishing it like pros.
    Kellie from Princess and the Yard Ape

    • Mallie Hart
      Mallie Hart says:

      Kellie, I try very hard to be realistic and still positive. My tone is certainly a little snarky, perhaps not suited to the tastes of everyone in our group, but it works for me. If we can’t be ourselves in our business, I think we’ve already failed in our business endeavor, you know? I’m quite happy that I have some good company that feels the same.

      I love Dre’s Facebook group, too. I’m slowly returning to Facebook after a hiatus, so I’ll be spending more time interacting soon.

    • Mallie Hart
      Mallie Hart says:

      So glad it struck a chord with you, Michele. A little realism makes positivity more possible in my book!

  5. Vickie Franks
    Vickie Franks says:

    Love this advice, Mallie! I’m about to embark on a new adventure, and it’s good to start out with a nice dose of realism. I’m glad I found you! I’ll be back.

    • Mallie Hart
      Mallie Hart says:

      I’m thrilled to make your acquaintance, Vickie. I’m actually going to be starting up a group, #RealYouRealBiz, in December, based on a lot of the ideas I share on my blog and across social media platforms. I’ll be talking more about it in tomorrow’s blog post, too!

      I’m so pleased that these “doses of reality” have struck a chord with those in the entrepreneur trenches.

  6. Cara Chace
    Cara Chace says:

    LUUURVE this!! Today I explained to my hubby that I needed to not be up until 12am on Sunday night (again) – and he was going to have to entertain our kiddo by himself all afternoon so I could work. I love doing the work, but sometimes I have to draw a line to keep sane.

    • Mallie Hart
      Mallie Hart says:

      I’m working on this Sunday on a passion project, Cara, based on this whole idea of embracing the realities of business. But, I won’t be up until midnight and I didn’t cook dinner tonight. You are so right. You can’t do it all. Some days you choose work and your husband rides herd over the kids or, in my case, furries. Some days, though, you gotta set the work aside and embrace the you that isn’t all about your business.

      Would you like to be a part of our early beta-test of a new group working to reveal the reality of running a small business, Cara? Give me a shout if interested!

      • Cara Chace
        Cara Chace says:

        Dude – I hear ya. I choose to do ZERO work last night so I could curl up with a book and I felt ZERO guilt about it. After a full day, I usually put in another 3+ hours of work after the kiddo goes to bed, 5-6 nights a week. Taking over the world is not for sissies!
        I would love to hear more about the beta-test, but will have to look seriously at the time commitment. Do you have my email?

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