And let me just add to my title for a bit, if you don’t mind.
My dissenting opinions don’t by default make me:
- A Troll
I could probably add to that bulleted list with tens of other words, but that’s probably enough to get the point across.
That’s right party people. I can disagree with your article, your idea, your infographic, even your business model and still be a positive human being. I can even be your friend and confidante.
Positivity Passionistas Need To Practice What They Preach
I’m so tired of seeing people spouting off that you shouldn’t pay attention to the “jerks.”
Who exactly are these “jerks?” Anyone who disagrees with them, with their specific ideas, views or actions.
Let me tell you something, princess … that’s not positive or perky or powerful. In fact, the word I’d use to describe it is pathetic!
Calling someone out as a jerk for simply asking a question about your idea isn’t showcasing your positive nature and can-do attitude. It’s showing your petty side. The one that only wants pats on the back and accolades.
While both accolades and huzzahs can certainly be social, the main function that most of us hope to achieve with our social shares is conversation.
Opinions absolutely are like a**holes, we ALL have one. But we absolutely don’t have to act like an a**hole when we share your opinion. And we don’t have to react like an a**hole when someone does share an opinion that doesn’t match our own.
Dissenting Opinions Make For Open & Honest Discussion
While recording a podcast episode with Ian Anderson Gray, this very topic came up.
He actually likes it when what he publishes garners a dissenting opinion or two.
If the only conversations you choose to allow must involve a consensus that your idea is the only idea, that your way is the only way, you’re actually closing yourself off to a lot of ideas that might enhance and strengthen your own.
Look at all of the great leaps forward in science and technology. Would any have happened if all the scientist naysayers decided they didn’t want to be a jerk by sharing their new theory? I’m guessing Steve Jobs would respond with a resounding N-O.
But, I Didn’t Ask For “Your” Opinion!
Yeah, actually you did. As soon as you clicked on the publish button you put your article, your idea, your graphic, your slides, etc. out for the world to see.
Leaving your comments section open and issuing a call to action to discuss just might get you … that’s right a discussion!
Do you honestly think that every reader of every article agrees with you absolutely, 100%, every time?
I can understand that you might get upset, and rightly so, if someone sharing a dissenting opinion calls you out harshly, calls you a name.
Wait, hang on a second, aren’t you actually the one engaging in name calling? Interesting.
Sugarcoating Is For Suck-ups And Sycophants
I don’t expect anyone to agree with me all the time. 24-7-365 agreement would be boring and pointless. How would any of us grow and evolve?
Every time I publish an article I know there’s the potential for pushback. And I welcome that pushback if it’s delivered in a calm, rational, based on facts and or experience, comment that opens up the opportunity for conversation.
I’ve seen that pushback from big names and small. And I’ve delivered my own pushback, again without worrying about the cachet and clout of the author. Even the big names out there are looking to converse. They don’t expect you to swallow everything they’re selling whole without asking any questions.
So, why should you expect that?
I’m often in the minority. And I’m fine with that. I learn something new with every dissenting opinion I read and choose to take in the spirit in which it was intended. A chance to engage in smart conversation.
My bestest digital gal pal and partner in podcast crime, Brooke Ballard sums it up:
… if you need a spoon full of sugar for the truth to go down, go watch Mary Poppins!